“It’s Not About Us”

~ A Co-parenting Survival Guide to Taking the High Road ~

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“If parents want their kids to be okay through a divorce, then they have to be okay through it, and there has to be someone out there who needs to hear that kind of story.”

– Darlene Taylor

Darlene Taylor - It's Not About Us
A Co-parenting survival guide to taking the high road

It’s Not About Us

If you had told Darlene Taylor that she’d pack her bags after a rocky divorce to move across the country at the request of her ex-husband, she would have laughed in your face and asked to sip whatever it was you were drinking. But that’s exactly what happened—and it changed the course of her family.

Part memoir, part survival guide, It’s Not About Us shares with hilarious honesty her imperfect attempts at forging a new path for her family after divorce. Taylor provides fifteen nuggets of co-parenting wisdom, including:

  •  When to make decisions solo and when to consult your ex
  •  One thing children of divorce don’t want you to say
  •  How family and friends can help
  •  The surprising lesson from a boyfriend’s ex-wife
  •  The most impactful decision you can make

Redefine your family in new and positive ways—and build a better co-parenting relationship than you imagined.

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Watch Darlene on CBS!

Taylor’s book, “It’s Not About Us: A Co-parenting Survival Guide to Taking the High Road” is a memoir of her own journey co-parenting and offers advice and tips she’s learned along the way. Watch interview …

Interview with Darlene at CBS Los Angeles about her book, "It's Not About Us."

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Noteworthy Awards

BookFest Award Winner – 1st Place

2023 BookFest First Place Award Winner in the Parenting Self-Help / Relationships & Communication genre

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Pair it with the Journal!

In her book, It’s Not About Us, Darlene Taylor shares with hilarious honesty her imperfect attempts at taking the high road in co-parenting after divorce. Now Taylor walks alongside co-parents to face the next challenge: once you decide to take the high road in co-parenting, how do you stay there?

A Guided Journal for Staying on the High Road paves the way for maintaining a healthy co-parenting relationship. The beautiful, claiming pages include:

  •  Reflection questions to remain focused on your children
  • Fifteen “Hard-won Wisdoms” to guide your family’s healing
  • Inspirational quotes to stay motivated
  • Self-care ideas to prioritize your well-being
  • Mental health check-ins to stay emotionally balanced
  • Parenting affirmations to build confidence
  • Prompts to practice living in gratitude
  • and so much more!

It’s the perfect gift idea for co-parents, friends, or family members who are ready to redefine their families in new and positive ways after divorce.

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Spotlight Book Reviews

Full of Personal Triumps!

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“When ‘Happily Ever After’ goes up in smoke, how do you keep the love alive for your kids? A must-read for couples going through divorce with children. Full of personal triumphs and fails, Taylor brings her life-saving humor, insight as a life coach and social worker, and irrepressible optimism to a very painful time. She reminds us that children deserve to be the beneficiaries of a successful relationship rooted in respect and communication, in honor of the love that got them here in the first place.”
Gina Torres
Producer, Actor

Profound, Funny, & Real!

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“Wow. Profound, funny, and real! It’s as if Taylor peered into my journey with my ex and kids and articulated every fear and challenge. It’s a roadmap to reach the destination, at times heartbreaking, always inspirational and life-affirming. I’m re-reading it.”
Eric Pankowski
CBS Executive Producer

Masterful Job!

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I think Darlene Taylor does a masterful job of writing about a subject, Divorce, that is filled with land mines. At any moment one is apt to blow up in your face even when the parties are careful. This book is perfect for people going through a divorce especially those who have children. I have suffered through the pains of a divorce and wish a book like this could have been available then because two children were involved. I think so highly of “It’s No Bout Us” that I have mailed it directly from Amazon to those folks I thought it would help. If you’re going a divorce, please purchase two books. One for your former partner and one for you. I recommend it very highly.

Thank you, Darlene, for your honesty, candor, and your powerful “Hard~Won Wisdoms.”
Lloyd M. Warren
Actor & Former College Basketball Player

A Damn Good Read!

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“I read the book and it was honestly one of the most engaging and relevant books I’ve ever read.
Although the book is geared towards navigating a divorce, this book is for anyone in any relationship. If you have kids, this is for you. If you want to know the proper way to communicate in a relationship, this is for you. If you want a damn good read, this is for you”
Kevin Glover

Direct, Intelligent, Real!

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“Courageous and instructive. Love the writing style – direct, intelligent and real. Darlene does a fine job of capturing the emotions that she felt, confirming that it is okay to feel them, and advising parents not to get so lost in them that they forget there is a child to consider”
Rob Umpleby